A Case of Misunderstanding

Last year I had an intern come up to me after one of the sessions that I spoke at. The intern told me that he was holding bitterness towards me because he had smelled alcohol on my breath in a previous conversation he had with me a few weeks before that. I was thinking in my head why he would think that since I don’t drink alcohol. He continued to talk to me and said that he wanted to ask me for forgiveness since he shouldn’t have been thinking such negative thoughts toward me. It then hit me why he may have thought I had alcohol on my breath. I had recently been given some Listerine Cool Mint breath strips when I had talk to this intern a few weeks ago. I also had some in my pocket when he approached me so I took one out as we were talking at the altar and offered him one. I then asked him if my breath smelled like it did a few weeks ago.

We had a good laugh about the misunderstanding that took place.

I told him how proud I was of because he came and talked to me about it and did not let that bitterness fester in his heart. He shared with me that he had told other people about the alcohol on my breath and now needed to go and tell them what really happened. I told him that would be good so they knew the real story.

Have you ever had this happen to you? Where you thought something had happened and then told everyone about it when in fact you maybe misunderstood something. I have and try to not make this a habit in my life.

Question: What would you do if someone came up to you and confronted you on an issue? What would your response be even if they did not have all of the facts?

  • Tim M.

    Wow, what an incredible story of how misconceptions can be so dangerous! It’s so important that we as Christians always seek to confront an issue that we see and look for clarity instead of assuming the worst in people. Thanks Mr. Stoner for sharing this story, it is a good reminder of the dangers that can come from misunderstanding.

    • heath.stoner

      I agree Tim. Let us all not presume things before we have talked to people.

  • jonathan

    I’ve done this a lot in my life and at times it wasn’t fun because I would be wrong. I have been confronted on specific issues before where the person confronting didn’t have all the facts straight, and the intial response was to get offended and hurt because of assumption. Looking back, I would be in the wrong just as much as the person confronting because of how I turned my heart to offense other than turning it to love and patience. Our response on any confrontation should always turn back to loving others and taking the time to lead them to the right information or accepting the confrontation and thanking that person for being bold and obedient to the Spirit. Thank you Lord for self control and love because even we need it when we go to God for things:) Thank you Heath Stoner for posting this. God bless.

    • heath.stoner

      I agree. Thank you for this thought Jonathan.

  • Trace

    For sure this is a huge issue in the body of Christ. I agree with Tim that clarity is so important, and that’s one reason why Jesus told us to go straight to the source of our offense first, not to tell everyone else about it. Its something we all need to watch out for in our own hearts, because gossip really isn’t a “major” sin in our own minds sometimes. I rejoice that this young man had the courage and maturity to get it cleared up. This issue is SO important. I just hope that his gossip didn’t adversely affect many others. Thanks Heath Stoner for sharing.

    • heath.stoner

      Yes, I am glad this guy brought this up to me instead of holding on to it all year.

  • Bryanna Tabler

    I think we never know what people might be holding against us even on the smallest of things.

    • heath.stoner

      Let’s all make sure we don’t hold even the smallest things.